Every human being has been heartbroken in one way or the other by different people and things.A circumstance can oftentimes break our hearts if it doesn’t go as planned.The one common thing about heartbreaks whether caused by human beings or circumstances usually is that they go hand in hand with disappointment.The most common heartbreak is caused by human beings in relationships; whether friendships, families or romantic relationships.
It is very common for a heartbroken person to withdraw for a while,mourn their loss before learning to start all over again.Some of them end up depressed and others even start involving in drug abuse in an attempt to fill the void in their hearts.Sadly,others even end up committing suicide.However, because losing heartbroken to suicide,drug overdose and depression is heartbreaking itself,I advise anyone going through a heartbreak to follow the following steps in order to overcome.
1.Cry
Crying is one way of getting everything off your chest.It doesn’t make you weak or less man/woman,it makes you release your emotions and feel that heavy weight come off your chest.The society has made men avoid crying because if they do, they’ll be considered weak.This is however killing our men because they end up drinking alcohol or abusing drugs to forget their pain.Dear men,it is okay to cry as much as you want to because you’re also human.
2.Pray
Prayer is the second way of getting things off your chest.Go to God in prayer,pour your heart out and tell Him just how much you need His help to fix everything that has been broken.Prayer is the first and best way of sharing what you are going through and the only sure way of avoiding gossip as God isn’t human that He should expose your secrets and struggles to others.
3.Talk to someone you trust
Talk to a friend,family member,mentor,therapist or just anyone you are sure won’t expose your issues.Talking to someone you trust makes you feel a sense of community and care especially if the person is there for you.
4.Make sure you are not alone
Sitting alone and isolating yourself will give you the opportunity to overthink and that is not healthy as it may lead to depression.Hang out with your friends, family,youth groups or with any trusted person/group of people who make you feel alive.
5.Forgive
As hard as this may be, forgiving those who have hurt you is the only way of truly letting them go.It not only frees them but above everything,it frees you.Forgiving them helps you take another step and start all over again without having any feelings of resentment towards them as this will only hold you back.
6.Do what you love
Now focus on what you enjoy doing the most.Go for that trip you have always wanted,hike on that mountain,cook that Italian dish,go to the beach,sing that song,try that new dance,paint that picture;do it all!
7.Cut them off
Cutting them off after forgiving them makes everything easier.It is a healthy step because then,you won’t have to see them post pictures of them and their new friends or lovers and feel bad about yourself.It helps you start living your life independently without minding what they do with theirs.
8.Focus on yourself
Now,focus both on your healing and growth.Don’t jump into another relationship as a rebound or as a healing tool as that will lead to an even worse heartbreak.Work towards your dreams and goals and be the person you have always wanted to be.
Remember, healing takes a shorter time for some people and a longer time for others.Be patient with yourself, don’t compare yourself with anyone and make sure you relate with people who won’t judge you but help you become a better person.Don’t worry, everything will be okay… you got this!
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