It is surprising how much the idea of relationship has changed over the years.Initially, our parents, grandparents and forefathers only dated to marry and they gave their all during the dating process.Flowers,dates and walks were a common way of showing their affection to those they loved but in our generation,that is almost non-existent.
When you talk about dating to this generation,there are likely to be two reactions;terror and spite.A large number of people are terrified of being in a relationship because of the constant dishonesty, disloyalty and heartbreak that comes with it.Others are spiteful of relationships and they use it as an excuse to hurt or sleep with others.Sex has been greatly idolized in relationships nowadays.
It is sad because true love is almost non-existent.There are however a few people like me,who still believe that there are good people out there whose intentions are clear and who also desire true love.
Many young people have lost their lives in the past few years as a result of depression and suicide.Why? Because those they loved cheated on them or left them for other people.Many people have also been killed by their partners because of different reasons.My heart breaks everytime I see dreams go down to the grave just because of a human being all in the name of love.
As the saying goes, prevention is better than cure.Therefore it is important to know if your relationship is toxic and when to walk away.Most of the time, people see lots of red flags but still stay because they are afraid of being alone,hoping that’s their partners will change.Some even try to change them,an idea that is both horrible and impossible! Personally, I would rather be alone than be in a relationship that consumes me.
If you are in a relationship with someone who makes you question everything about yourself,makes you feel unattractive,forces you to dress in a way you aren’t comfortable, takes more from you than he/she gives,always complains about everything you do, constantly compares you to his/her friends’ partners and make you question your sanity,it is time to leave!
Relationships are meant to make us better versions of ourselves, to make us feel loved and enough, to make us feel attractive,special and worthy and to put more smiles than tears on our faces.No relationship is easy or perfect,tears will be shed and voices raised at some point-that is okay.What is not okay is when that is the everyday experience you have in your relationship.
Dear brothers and sisters, you deserve better!You are wonderfully made,you are trying your best and making progress.Do not let a toxic relationship kill your esteem,focus and dreams,leave!There is someone out there praying to meet someone like you and they would do anything to see you happy.Focus on your growth; physical, spiritual,mental,emotional and financial.Trust me,the right person who will treat you like royalty will come along at the right time and when you least expect it.. and you will be glad you walked away from that relationship.
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