I know we have all asked ourselves this question at some point in life.It might have been intrapersonal or interpersonal but I believe we have tried to find the answers in one way or another.Here’s my own experience being single.
At first, being single was normal because I was just a little girl growing up with her focus on her studies and family.Then in highschool,every girl would talk about their experiences with boys, something I personally hadn’t yet experienced.The first time I was actually approached by a guy was when I was in my final year of highschool.All this time, I hadn’t even fallen in love yet.
After joining university,I was approached by so many guys which surprised me especially since I was attracted to none of them except this one guy whom I ended up dating even though I was still a naive little girl.Life seemed heavenly when I fell in love for the first time.Sadly,we broke up eight months later and for the first time in my life,I didn’t want to be single.After a series of self pity and depression,I decided to focus on my growth and thanks to Christ, everything was made easier.
I would however be lying if I said that I was 100% happy being single.I mean, I thought I did until I saw beautiful couples around me and on the internet.I would always be like,”why am I single?”It’s not that nobody was interested in me,they were.I just wasn’t attracted to any of them.My friends started calling me crazy saying that life isn’t a Disney movie and that I was supposed to choose a guy and relax.That was the problem, I wasn’t seeing who to choose because I wasn’t attracted to any of them!Based on my parent’s rocky marriage,I wasn’t prepared to be in the same situation or even worse.
Therefore, I was torn between not settling for less like my mum always tells me, and choosing someone I wasn’t attracted to.As a Christian who knows the God kind of marriage,I decided to let go and let God.It is still however sad not waking up to a text, spending the whole day without a call and going to bed without a text from someone you love.
Aarrgh! Being single sucks! However,on the brighter side, this is the only time you get to discover yourself,do everything you want and grow without any distractions (except for the constant questions like,”when will I meet my significant other?”).This is the only time you get to chase your goals,work towards your dreams and explore new things.It is the only time you get to have an unlimited and undistracted relationship with God.
I don’t know about you but I have made progress during this rather long period of singleness.The progress makes me proud of myself though the length of this period makes me overthink.I would like to hear your own opinion,story or insights about singleness.Feel free to leave a comment ☺️.
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